Thought of the day: stay away from people who can’t be happy for you, and don’t know how to be there in times of need.
When you are down, they will keep you there with their ill-manners and their so-called good intentions. But when you’re happy, they will not fail to notice it and rub in some kind of guilt. That has more to do with them than with you: their personal inaptitude in seeking happiness is blinded with their jealousy of you finding yours. If you can find bliss, they’re doing something wrong. And the human mind does not like to think that it is wrong: it is much easier to blame it on others, to say that they had it easy and that your luck holds you down.
Friends, I beg you, beware of fake friends. Friends, families, colleagues… all these constellations around you can either push you up or keep you down as much as possible: choose the real ones, the ones for and not against you.
I do believe in real friends. People who want the best for you, and are happy to see you glow. I have seen and have been one of these. Of course, jealousy, bitterness and so on can happen, punctually. We are all flawed. But make sure to check the bigger picture, as you grow better.
When people go through therapy, there comes a point in their lives where their social behaviour changes. They start wanting more of themselves and for themselves, understanding what’s kept them down for a while. The people you chose around you can be a signal of how well you are (or not) , and as you get better, you want to make sure you keep the good people around you, or seek for better ones if you need to. Do not feel guilty for your own happiness, or “bear” with others because you have to: believe me, you’ve had your share. And who knows, maybe your behavior will inspire others, wake them up. And then you can become the good friend you’ve always needed, and root for your team in times of need.
Get the best for yourself, and the rest will follow. And only then will you give the best to others. Hail to that!
